CHALLENGING RELATIONSHIPS MYTHS

Relationships portrayed in the media are not necessarily healthy, and challenging these myths gives you a more evidence-based foundation to build your relationship moving forward

Today’s blog will focus on challenging common relationship myths that I see in the therapy room. Education on what defines a healthy relationship can be helpful, especially when we may not have seen many examples growing up or portrayed in the media. Here are some of the top relationship myths:

1. Myth: Love means never having to say you're sorry. In reality, healthy relationships involve acknowledging mistakes and apologizing when necessary. Apologizing shows empathy and a willingness to work through issues. Additionally, an apology is not an apology if the behavior continues - it is manipulation.

2. Myth: A perfect relationship is conflict-free. Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. It's how you handle conflicts that matter. Healthy relationships involve open communication and a willingness to compromise.

3. Myth: Your partner should fulfill all your needs. While your partner can provide support and companionship, it's unrealistic to expect them to fulfill all your needs. It's important to maintain a sense of independence and have a network of support beyond your partner. Otherwise, this may be too much pressure for one person.

4. Myth: Jealousy is a sign of love. Jealousy can be destructive in a relationship. It's important to trust your partner and communicate openly about any insecurities or concerns. In fact, this may be a sign of potential IPV/DV in some situations.

5. Myth: If it's meant to be, it will be easy. All relationships require effort and work. There will be ups and downs, but working through challenges can strengthen your bond.

6. Myth: You can change your partner. While people can grow and change, it's not realistic or healthy to enter a relationship with the expectation of changing your partner. Accepting your partner for who they are is essential for a healthy relationship. We CANNOT change other’s behaviors, but we CAN decide if we are willing to tolerate them.

7. Myth: Great sex means a great relationship. While sexual compatibility is important, it's just one aspect of a healthy relationship. Communication, trust, and emotional connection are equally important. Sex does not have to mean penis-in-vagina penetration, but can include flirting, cuddles, and petting.

8. Myth: Happy couples don't need to work on their relationship. Even happy couples need to invest time and effort into their relationship. Regular communication, date nights, and nurturing your connection are important for long-term happiness. Anything worth having requires work!

Recognizing and dispelling these myths can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships based on realistic expectations. Need help figuring out what is healthy for you? Schedule an initial consultation session with your favorite holistic therapist in Texas!